Picking Up the Pieces After WAW Goes Again #2

[smilie]

Today I feel like a fool.

For almost 8 weeks I have been in a state of shock and anguish as my wife walked away yet again. The reason that I feel like a fool is because this wasn't a 'spur of the moment' thing for her - it was long planned and calculated, with each and every step coordinated and almost perfectly executed.

I have been posting here as the heartbreak I felt was so terrible, the shaking in my body so bad, the feeling of loss so hard to bare as I once again watched as the love of my life walked out of the door.

Now, this week, 7 weeks on, I find that she has been planning this for months, if not years. She was waiting for my compensation money to come through and immediately grabbed it when it did back in February 2020, suggesting that they would be better off out of the way in her account and the attached 'savings pot' that I didn't have on mine. She told me that it would be safe there until we opened an account to put them in. How stupid was I to trust that my wife was telling me the truth.

I felt physically sick when I found out that only £8,000 of my compensation money was placed in the savings account that she opened - I found that out after she left. She told me that she had transferred my claim money to there and that it was safe. She had hidden my login details that I received from the bank. I didn't know it was a joint account until the day after she left. I trusted that she would have my interests at heart.

Earlier on this week I was in total shock, when I found that the other savings account (which I totally forgot we had) had been emptied. I found that this account had the majority of my compensation money in it, together with the proceeds of our house sale a few years back and extra savings that we put in over time. This account had been closed and the money transferred to her account - all £13,500 of it. The copy of the form authorising closure of the account was signed by her ... and by me. I had never seen this form before, have no recollection of signing it, didn't ever have a discussion about closing it, and never talked about where the money was going and why the account was being closed. How did my signature get on that form?

God only knows what I would had I received the intended compensation of circa £46,000 as was expected until my expert witness changed his mind after having a stroke and coming back to work afterwards.

Last night I looked at the statement that I had received from the bank branch when I went there earlier in the week. I looked in more detail and noticed that my wife had been withdrawing small denominations of money out each month - £200 here, £500 there. The statement only goes up to May 2019 and I am waiting for the full statement to arrive in a couple of weeks.

It's incredible to think that she was also manipulating me to take my pensions out and she almost succeeded. Two of the three are, but the biggest one I saved. Just as before, she set up another joint account for them to be paid in to and triggered off the lump sum payments to be paid to this account. One weekend I shared my concerns about drawing out my pensions and I would like to discuss it with her. It was at this point where she changed.

That weekend she done all she could not to enter into any discussions about my concern with the pension withdrawals and as the weekend went by I reminded her that we still haven't spoken about it. "We will", she reassured me, but as the weekend started to draw to a close, she hadn't started the conversation, so I did. She still wouldn't speak about it and I asked her why she seemed not to hold my concerns and our relationship in a higher regard than work. She talked about work all weekend, but not my concerns about my pensions.

The next week her kiss goodbye didn't feel right. She let it slip that she had booked the next week off work. She didn't want me to walk her to or from work as I usually would and she didn't want us to go away for a few days break when I suggested doing that on her week off that I never know she booked - she told me that she told me "ages ago". She hadn't and it was booked last minute - but why?

Quite simply because she knew that I had changed my mind. She knew that I didn't want to draw out my pensions, there was nothing more for her, nothing more to gain, so she left. I managed to set up a different account and redirect payment for the pensions she triggered to be paid out, into that account. The joint account she set up a week before she left, remains empty.

This seems like a fantastical story, but the realisation that my wife has been planning this for at least 2 years that I can prove, and certainly longer, is incredible. She planned this even prior to us moving here to be near her work so that she could walk to work every day. Does this make all I have written here so far void? She was still a Walk Away Wife, but it would seem that it wasn't that she was going through some form of high emotional stress causing her to run, this was a cold, calculated and well executed, long-term planned effort. Initial investigations have proved it, a full investigation will support that proof, I'm sure.

So now I'm here with my life turned upside down penniless, apart from the money from my pension that I have to spend on legal fees and moving costs.

Due to the fact that she refused to pay any spousal maintenance (alimony), the court needed to be petitioned and the collating of information for this was what has highlighted all this. The petition has been filed and the divorce petition along with it.

Seeing as my wife is a lawyer (did I tell you that bit?), she is using a colleague at work who specialises in divorce. The papers that were filed into the court were sent to her yesterday, together with a full explanation as to why interim support payments need to be paid. The evidence, including bank statement was given as Exhibits, together with the divorce petition. My wife's lawyer would have forwarded a copy of these documents to her. Now she knows that I know what she's been doing and what's more her lawyer is getting a different picture of what she has probably been told.

She has put herself in a position where her reputation is likely to be put in question. She was foolish to use a colleague to represent her. Will that colleague have a duty of care to the company that she works for? Seeing as my wife deals with high net worth clients, is there any chance of her manipulating them in the same way that she has manipulated me? Does her colleague have a duty to report to the partnership that my wife has stolen the savings out of two accounts and was manipulating me into drawing out my pensions to put in a third account? Her actions have been the same for 2 accounts - put my money in leave it there a while and then draw it out together with the rest of the money that was in the account - why wouldn't she not do the same for the third? If she was prepared to defraud me, what is the potential for her to defraud her clients.

Sitting here today, now, I want to divorce my wife. I don't want her in my life anymore, she is broken, she is toxic and she has disgusted me to levels that I never thought possible. I thought the world of her and now I think nothing of her outside of her being a criminal.

I have not been her husband, I have been her target - 'The Mark' to her long con and it makes me feel physically sick.

DBing won't work in this situation, although I am still technically a LBS. I have to somehow pick the pieces up and start a new life again. I have nothing, I have been left with nothing and she has got everything that she ever wanted.

She was probably laughing at me when she left, thinking that she had gotten way from me - gotten away with 'it'. Now after receiving a copy of the court application yesterday and now knowing that I have caught her out, I wonder how she feels today? I wonder how she slept? I wonder what occupies her thoughts ... or even if she cares.

Her reputation at work could be in jeopardy and when the full extent of the financials have been established it is very possible that the police will need to investigate, as I still don't know how my signature got on that paperwork that I have never seen.

Am I a victim? Well I am a victim of a fraudulent and dishonest behaviour, yes, but I don't know how I feel now. Many of you say that I keep focusing on her and I need to focus on me and I am. It's gonna take a while but what has been uncovered this week has made detachment easier. It has made getting over her easier. I would never have thought in a million years that she of all people, would be capable of such devious acts. I have done absolutely nothing to deserve this. All I did was give her the opportunity to manipulate me in ways that nobody has ever manipulated me before - even my mother wasn't this good!

Now I need to dust myself off and work out where to go from here, physically and emotionally. It's going to take a while to process all this. The woman who married me and had an affair inside of a year that she told me she didn't have and the girl that I fell in love with way back in 2001 has turned into the worst enemy I have ever had. My life has been shattered and my thoughts of her have also been shattered along with it.