That's what is great about dating apps. On Bumble, "unemployed" appears right on your profile photo. You only chat with the women who see that and are still interested (swipe right). (:
I hate dating apps. I just think that a lot of people use them just to get sex from the information I've read from people's experience. But it's good that it has status. Shame it's "unemployed" and not "semi-retired". Either way I have no income. I trust that you can put other information in also.
I can't see me looking for dates just yet, but I notice that the bumble has a network app too - so that may be a place to start.
Originally Posted by CWarrior
Originally Posted by smilie
I remember finding it hard to get a date as I hadn't got a lot of confidence. smile
This you need to address. It's DEFINITELY worth taking a few months to address any self-compassion issues to accept who you are, and also work on areas you feel uncomfortable with--e.g., your living situation, your employment, etc
I'm much more confident these days, although that's taken a big hit and I've never been a good "chat up" artist. I agree that I would need to sort out various aspects of my situation and hopefully take some IC at some stage and read a few books - just started reading "I only he knew" at the moment. A lot of the stuff in their I was doing anyway.
Originally Posted by CWarrior
It sounds like you imagine women flock to men with big.. incomes. In the past month I've dated.. a dozen?.. women. Only one asked about my finances. I was very vague.
That's bad isn't it? I don't think all women do, but if there is a choice between the rich guy who wants them and the average guy who wants them, everything else being equal I would expect that the woman would chose the rich guy.
M(55), W(45) BD1: Apr-2011, BD2: 23-May-21, NC (15 June '21) Divorce Filed (16 July '21) --- When you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel, you need to trust it's there.
