BL42 - Truth be told I had several different veins of thought on it all.
I was truly heartbroken for my kids who had to live through all that turmoil. I still have a lot of anger towards him for thinking that my kids would accept her and this whole crazy situation. They had a very stable childhood and I just could not believe the dysfunction he introduced. They deserved a better role model.
Compartmentalizing, I found what he did absolutely laughable and I essentially told him so. On one of the rare instances we were texting it came up that I now knew he was divorced. I teased him for how fast he married and divorced her. I told him based on his speed of marrying last time, I was betting he married wife number 3 at the courthouse as he filed from wife number 2. I even asked if he married the clerk who filed his paperwork. I also told him my running theory was that he was already secretly married to court clerk only this time he kept it secret from even his own kids.
But yes, truth be told there is a part of me that feels vindicated. Like you can just walk off, marry someone you barely know, throw in all sorts of variables that complicate things and viola, happiness is yours? Such immature thinking.
He still can’t own it all. Ex told me he was really happy with her. He said my older son was the issue. And ex said it was easy to end it because of that. Of course my older son only had 1 year before leaving for college so what kind of true love is it that it couldn’t outlast 12 months. I know he used my son as his out and is too proud to admit it was all a mistake, not true love.
What a clown he became.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
