You see quite clearly who my XW is and was; and who MIL is and always was. You are correct, there is a big different there.
A bit more on banning / boundaries. It’s the intent and reason behind the action. It is encouraged to have boundaries and to limit toxicity in one’s life. This amounts, at times, to something similar to an outright ban of someone. The difference is our purposeful action is a controlled response to disrespectful behaviours from that person. If said person is respectful then a different outcome would occur.
I believe you are living this idea. And tolerating MIL is following that philosophy. You are a on a good path. And an excellent role model for your boys.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
