My XH is marrying his AP in a week and a half. They were engaged only seven months post BD. The ink had barely dried on our separation agreement. I agree with KML. She’s getting the older version with a heck of a lot of shameful behaviour he needs to reconcile deep inside of himself. And every time he looks in our children’s eyes knowing he let them down. I’d much rather be single than have to live with the echo of my worst self.
He’s starting over and trying to reinvent himself. I get it. When you blow up your life so spectacularly, what else is there. I wish him well, tbh. I hope he manages to make the necessary changes and fully become the person she thinks he is. My kids could use that kind of a person for a dad. Time will tell, I guess.
With respect to him getting married, I have no feelings about it. Time and many, many reality checks have done their thing. He is not the kind of person I want to spend this last phase of my life with. You will get there too Hope. (((Hugs)))
