How I see it now is, she wanted out, her meeting someone new was an inevitability. Why does it matter the timeframe? ... It's just a number, therefore it doesn't matter. The time it takes them to move on is neither good or bad, it is only your perception that makes it so.
You are correct.
Originally Posted by CWarrior
You have no idea why she chose him. You seem to be mindreading and villainizing her.
I didn't think that I was, it's just what I see. I suppose I'm wrong again then
In some cases, OM is a "predator" More often, it's just some shlub that got caught up in it. In many cases these things are the result of a thousand micro-escalations instead of a decision that someone has made. i.e. two people are unhappy in their marriages and start discussing it with each other. The validation feels good, after a few get togethers one of them says something only mildly flirtatious. The other person likes the attention and doesn't object, or says something mildly flirtatious back. The next time it's slightly more flirtatious, etc. etc. and before they know it they're way over the line.
At that point, they are not thinking about you, or their wife, or kids, or anything else -- they're just enjoying the attention. They are of course aware that they're doing something wrong, but they're ignoring it and putting on blinders.
