Oh, and she needs osteopathic treatment because she has a neck problem because of the stress of the relationship breaking down - did she not break it down?
An exit affair is more a symptom of a broken relationship than the cause of a broken relationship. She owns her bad breakup behavior of cheating. The breakdown of the relationship is a shared responsibility.
This is where I find it difficult, as I was truly unaware that the relationship had broke down. This is what I really don't get. She acted brilliantly of course, so that she would give me the impression that everything was ok, all while she was maneuvering things into position behind the scenes - slight of hand, if you like. I feel like I'm being a bit thick here and feel that I must be missing something?
Originally Posted by CWarrior
Originally Posted by smilie
why, oh why, is she treating me like this. I thought that she loved me all these years.......I am truly gobsmacked!!
She probably loved you once upon a time--that's why she stood by you through years of hard times.
Again, something else I don't get. If she loved me "once upon a time", then when she stopped loving me why not end the relationship nicely and go our own separate ways? Why drag it on year after year pretending to love me, saying she loved me, etc, etc? I stood by her in the hard times 7.5 years when she was ill. Why doesn't that count? Why am I the bad guy because I have this bloomin' awful condition that cannot be resolved? Please forgive me, but I really don't get this either and think that I must be extremely thick?
M(55), W(45) BD1: Apr-2011, BD2: 23-May-21, NC (15 June '21) Divorce Filed (16 July '21) --- When you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel, you need to trust it's there.
