Smilie, I get the feeling that you are approaching this from an emotional angle. However, when dealing with lawyers, you may want to think about whether that is going to serve you better than approaching this from a transactional or business perspective.
Yes I am probably. I can't just flick a switch and look at it like a business transaction when she is rewriting history and blatantly lying to her lawyer who then tries to make me out to be the one at fault.
Originally Posted by MLCxH
I notice you still spend a lot of energy analyzing why your WAS behaved the way she did and whether it is fair for her to behave that way or not. I am guessing if your WAS on this board, she would have many reasons to justify her behavior. The question you need to ask yourself is does it matter at this point? Your relationship is where it is now regardless of the reason. You are still looking over your shoulder for answers while she seems to be focused on the road ahead. In my opinion you should be focusing on the present and next steps and focusing on things you can control rather than those outside your control.
I think you have misinterpreted my focus here and forgive me if I am wrong. I think that you are referring to her behaviour as to how she left and having an A. In my previous post I was referring to her actions that I have discovered today, in closing yet another one of our joint accounts and keeping the money - June 2020 and somehow obtaining my signature on the form without me even seeing the form! She has been clever and cunning, that's for sure. Yes I am focusing on that as I needed to and it has really shocked me in many ways and on so many levels.
I am no longer looking for answers as to why she left. I know why she left. I was useless and had no income as I have a neurological condition and she decided that she wanted to be with the guy who has loads of money and flashy cars that she turned up in on the weekend to collect her clothes. In my book, she has prostituted herself into a better life, convincing a guy to take her into his lifestyle because that's what she wanted. There is absolutely no difference in this to me, than people marrying into money and no doubt she will, unless somehow it al comes crashing down, which I don't think it will as it seems that she always comes up smelling of roses.
The best thing I can do for me is not let her get me down or push me down, but I;m really having problems trying to keep my head above water here.
M(55), W(45) BD1: Apr-2011, BD2: 23-May-21, NC (15 June '21) Divorce Filed (16 July '21) --- When you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel, you need to trust it's there.
