I have just got a letter from my wife's lawyer. She's not going to pay spousal maintenance as she doesn't have any money left.
Makes sense. Her attorney wants her to pay $0 (best for her). At tax time, people try to put down as many deductions as possible. They don't debate the ethics of each. Your attorney wants her to pay a lot (best for you). They'll knock down every improper deduction. In the end, you'll typically wind up at some balance point close to the court guidelines, whether through settlement, mediation, or adjudication.
Originally Posted by smilie
Oh, and she needs osteopathic treatment because she has a neck problem because of the stress of the relationship breaking down - did she not break it down?
An exit affair is more a symptom of a broken relationship than the cause of a broken relationship. She owns her bad breakup behavior of cheating. The breakdown of the relationship is a shared responsibility.
Originally Posted by smilie
why, oh why, is she treating me like this. I thought that she loved me all these years.......I am truly gobsmacked!!
She probably loved you once upon a time--that's why she stood by you through years of hard times.
