when i read these lines, the thought that crossed my mind was "this guy is a bad picker"
What i mean by that, is your are making poor partner choices.
Yes, I obviously am, the trail of destruction proves that.
Originally Posted by MrBrside
Have you always been in a relationship?- You need to be happy in your own skin - not with somebody else making you happy.
No. I have spent many years living on my own and I would never jump straight into another relationship, I'm not that type of guy.
Originally Posted by MrBrside
You say that the WW was the best relationship, but this woman made you ill !
Yes I believe that she has and after what she is doing now and the letter I have just received from her lawyer, she's trying to top-up that illness as best she can.
Originally Posted by MrBrside
You say you were cheated on, but then became the OM, when you WW cheated on her partner.
Yep, I deserve that. I have felt bad about this and originally broke the affair off. It didn't last. It should have lasted. This is the first time that I have seen somebody else who's in a relationship ... it will be my last.
Originally Posted by MrBrside
You need to work on you, and sort yourself.. And in a few years time, do a lot of reading before you start dating again ( dont rush the process like so many LBS do ) - No more mr Nice Guy and Dating essentials for Men are two books by Robert Glover which go into details about "bad pickers"
Few years? I'm 55 now! I'll be nearly 60 in a few years! Honestly though, another relationship is the last thing I need, I would prefer to get a dog if I could. I miss having a dog. It's hard in this country to have a dog in a rented house as many landlord don't accept it.
I agree that I need to work on myself and I shall. Firstly I just need some space, some peace and to get this rubbish sorted. I have a copy of No More Mr. Nice guy and have added both books to my reading list for after I'm moved.
Originally Posted by MrBrside
First though - work on you.. People here will always give you advice and we only have your best interests at heart - We have ALL been through this in some way, shape or form.
I know and will be forever in their debt. I always consider every word typed and never just write it off and somebody's opinion. Yes, it may be that it is their opinion, but it is an opinion well earned and based on their experience.
M(55), W(45) BD1: Apr-2011, BD2: 23-May-21, NC (15 June '21) Divorce Filed (16 July '21) --- When you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel, you need to trust it's there.
