Thank you for that, I really needed to hear and have that support today. It definitely feels wrong, as if me not being there for him to confide in is going to make him look for someone else to confide in more. But I am trusting the process and all of the people who have been through it on here. This site has been my guide and strength in this whole thing. My best friend doesn't understand why I dont hate his guts and thinks I should remember the bad hes done and focus on that. I tried explaining how doing that would only hurt me but she doesnt get it. So that was really hard to deal with for me.
Thank you for telling me your story, it truly helps to hear stories if real people who have been through this and have saved their marriages. I know its possible I might not save mine. I know that my H will regret it, I truly do, I'm just afraid it'll be after the D. I'm going to do my best to only contact him when I have to, and keep reading through all the forums on here for advice.
