CW, you would date a cheater who had an exit affair with you ? Would this really rule out too many women ? For me this would be the biggest red flag possible, as it shows you where their mindset (and values) are at - As Smilie is now seeing.. As i saw with my WW - she didnt have an exit affair, but did have an affair with a guy prior to meeting me. Just intrigued really - after all the things we have seen on this board, and the consequences of WW actions, you would still date a lady with a mindset that its ok to cheat ? Not having a dig, i'm just very curious as to why you would risk you being the next guy she exit affairs on ( as Smilie became )
Originally Posted by Chump Lady
Exit affairs, IMO, happen when someone wants out, but is too colossally immature to just own it — someone in an exit affair actually ENDS it. They leave. It’s definitive. They don’t waffle. They don’t come back. They don’t engage in goading the “pick me” dance. Is it ####ty? Yes. But to me, cake eating is ####tier, because cake eaters inflict a whole other level of mind####ery.
If that's what we're talking about, yes, for me having an exit affair in your past is a yellow flag ("Huh?! Tell me more!") not a red flag ("No way, Josefina!"). All things being equal, exit affairs are a bad breakup behavior, and I'd pick someone who would break up with me and then sleep with someone else 3-30 days later like a normal person, lol. Note, there are long-term posters here who've once had an EA/PA--but seem like they've grown and would be great partners. The details and their current perspective matter to me.
Now, if someone wanted to have an exit affair with me?! Heck no to an LTR! That's a neon red flag. (:
