I never thought that this day would ever come and that I wouldn't even be able to get the chance to heal a relationship issue, let alone know there was one to heal.
Originally Posted by LH19
No one ever thought we would be here. Part of the journey is accepting it and processing it.
Smilie, this caught my attention. As you know mate, all of us felt like this and no one ever expected to be in this position, I have really had trouble with this. What has helped me accept and process is to ask myself questions inspired by my reading of Stoicism.
- The divorce rate is circa 50%, so why shouldn't this happen to me? - If there are so many people affected in the same way, and they all say after a few years things get better, why wouldn't they get better for me? - If this person is actively choosing not to be with me, how can they be the right person for me? - If I had a great life before this person was a part of it, why can't it be just as great, if not better, after?
Me: 41 W:42 T: 14 M: 11 S: 6
"What happened happened, and couldn't have happened any other way...because it didn't"
