For completion and for reference, here is the main body of the text message that my wife sent me 2 days after leaving. I can't remember posting it before. She has since not kept to her words, she stopped paying the rent after 2 months, did abandon me. I do wonder how much of the content of this message was true when she was typing it and what changed her mind afterwards.
"I'm so sorry to do this. I appreciate the email you sent. I know you will never understand and forever hate me. I won't blame you. I have feelings for somebody else and it really isn't someone I work with. It isn't right to be with us in that situation and I haven't taken this decision lightly, I thought about it long and hard as I care about you so much and of course I have loved you for a long time. I'm not coming back to live at the house. I will not abandon you at all, I will pay the rent and bills for three months. There will be �1500 in your bank account today for food and stuff.
I'm so sorry, when we had counselling 9 years ago I thought we would be back on track for good, I really wanted it too and we have been great for years. It had nothing to do with you being poorly at all or not working, all I ever wanted was for you to get better. I can't explain why. I don't know what else to say at the moment apart from I'm deeply sorry and please be ok xx I know how much I've hurt you and I feel so sad and upset about that and for making you feel ill.
We will need to see each other soon to sort out my things and stuff so we will be in touch xx"
M(55), W(45) BD1: Apr-2011, BD2: 23-May-21, NC (15 June '21) Divorce Filed (16 July '21) --- When you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel, you need to trust it's there.
