You did a great job dealing with your STBXW today.
Originally Posted by smilie
R jumping is exactly what she has done since she left home. I need to study Red Flags.
A RED FLAG is a behavior you won't accept in a partner. A YELLOW FLAG is something that causes you to be more cautious. When you met your STBXW, she (A) had an exit affair with you, (B) intentionally jumps between relationships without processing baggage, and (C) had baggage to process being fresh out of a relationship. For me personally, (B) would've been a red flag, (A) is a yellow flag. Immediate disqualification for having an exit affair would rule out too many women I'd be happy to be in a relationship with. Your preferences and flag colors may vary. The key is to note and consider past behaviors.
I'm on catchup today.. But this post caught my eye.
CW, you would date a cheater who had an exit affair with you ? Would this really rule out too many women ? For me this would be the biggest red flag possible, as it shows you where their mindset (and values) are at - As Smilie is now seeing..
As i saw with my WW - she didnt have an exit affair, but did have an affair with a guy prior to meeting me.
Just intrigued really - after all the things we have seen on this board, and the consequences of WW actions, you would still date a lady with a mindset that its ok to cheat ? Not having a dig, i'm just very curious as to why you would risk you being the next guy she exit affairs on ( as Smilie became )
Previous username - Helpme123.. A name chosen at a desperate time..
Now Mr Brightside.. coming out of my cage, and doing just fine.
