I have been on quite the rollercoaster. I am currently seeking advice from a DB coach and this forum/books.
We have been up and down.
There has been no abuse or any sort of issues to that degree... just minor spewing as its called here.
I have been trying to GAL. its been hard with all the extra work I need to do at the moment being a single mum to three little ones.
But I have started renovations on my house which we always put off for various reasons. Just minor cosmetic stuff. This seemed to pull him back in - a little and spoke of his sadness and regret over the marriage.
I tried DB principals... validating, etc not always successfully. But it did seem to have a positive effect.
He even started telling me he wanted to reconcile and was being loving/affectionate etc. We were ML frequently.
But I think we fell into a pursuit/distance cycle. He would pull away again even when he was the one initiating the R talk and talk of reconciling. As of last night, he is again saying there is no use its over for him.
So my question is, what do I do now? Is it simply a matter of focusing on detachment again? What do I say or do when he brings up reconciling? I am pretty sure he will based on his behaviour of the last few months.
