Detachment is the hardest thing to achieve in DB land and it can take months/years. Some people never obtain full detachment. Moving away and not having kids with her will certainly help. Smiles I thought my life was over when my family was being torn apart. I was never more wrong. It has its challenges for sure but I have like zero stress in my life now. I’ll leave you with one of my favorite quotes “Life is all about how you handle plan B”.