Please stick to one thread in each forum. When you post more than one thread in a forum, it is difficult for posters to follow and provide advice to you. When the moderators see more than one thread created by a poster in a forum, they will merge the two threads into one until you have reached at least 100 postings/replies.
One last thing! Slow down and breathe!!! One second, one minute, one hour and then one day at a time. Try to keep the focus on you and what you need to do in order to survive and get through this period of time.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.