I am sorry you’re here. I definitely do not post a bunch, but I’ve been in IHS for over two years now.
I was truly shocked that my H could want a D, and I believed him when he said there was no one else. Silly me. During the course of this IHS , he has been engaged twice to OWs! Twice.
The second BD he said he didn’t want to be enemies. Huh. Ripping my future apart isn’t something a friend does. Now I do not want a D at all. But with help here and in IC, I have boundaries. I know what I will tolerate. I finally just told family. After two years. I didn’t want to because I am hopeful that we will get our MR back on track, and I wanted to spare them their feeling that they might develop against H as well as any sadness they might feel for me.
I know one thing that helps, is the OWs are in another country. If they were here, I think it wouldn’t be done already. If you read my threads, you’ll see I was so mad to tell family because this is H’s desire, not mine and he wants me to do all the work.
So my H wants a divorce, good for him. I am living my life. He can figure out how to get an atty and set the wheels in motion. Go live your life. Protect yourself. Let your H work things out on his own. Let him follow the steps to his freedom.
