"Wow, you feel angry when I eat skittles because you believe I'm telling you you need to eat more." By actively listening, by validating their feelings, you are NOT agreeing. You are getting out of the harmful defensive, controlling, or waiting to plead our case mindsets. Walk away if turns abusive.
Originally Posted by Artemis
as for tonight I honestly am not sure what hes going to say, I feel it could go either way.
Don't put so much stock in his words. Remember, it's actions that matter? (:
Originally Posted by Artemis
My main concern is if he says he wants to talk to a lawyer together, do I just agree..
You said you don't want a divorce. "No, I'm not going to do that." If you might want one, "I need time to think about it." If he asks how long, "I'll let you know." Don't be bullied by high-pressure sales tactics, e.g., "We can do it this easy way (my lawyer) or the hard way (separate lawyers)." If he makes a truly generous offer, he won't be afraid of you spending 2-4 hours analyzing it with your own attorney.
