I don't believe infidelity has to be the death of my marriage, I believe we can get through this and have a very happy Marriage, and sometimes there aren't words to explain why that is, its simply my gut and my faith....my H is depressed and scared and yes he's being selfish right now, but our Marriage is bigger then this moment, thats what I believe.
Hold on to those beliefs. Others have been through similar or worse and those beliefs were the foundation.
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As for the boundaries and R talk, I don't know much. Honestly part of me just wants to know why he even wants the D
DBing says do not INITIATE the R talks. R talks are fine if he initiates. Your only job during these talks is to listen and validate. No judging. It is critical that you do not express your feelings or argue.
It is perfectly fine to deflect his questions during this time.
"I am not sure" "I need time to think about that" "I need more time to process what you have said" "I will let you know when I have decided"
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
