I have just woke up with a realisation that the "Secret Bank Account" wasn't in fact secret. It was another joint savings account that we used to use to save for holidays and things. We opened this a few years back and I had completely forgotten about it.

We had some saving left from the sale of our house about 5-6 years ago (2015 I think). I had forgotten all about it and the wife hadn't mentioned anything about it either, so I forgot about it. So it looks as if she was stashing money in there without me knowing.

It was an old-fashioned "offline" type of bank account with a book that needed to be updated every now and again and withdrawals needed to be requested by going into the branch.

So that was my mistake saying that it was a secret account - I just totally forgot we had a few thousand in that account also.

This is a minefield.

M(55), W(45)
BD1: Apr-2011, BD2: 23-May-21, NC (15 June '21)
Divorce Filed (16 July '21)
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