Do you need to start looking for a new place? Isn't that on the to do list? Any chance you can maybe focus on that for a little bit?
Sorry I'm all over the place and forgot to reply to your comment on find a place to live.
Yes I do need that and I need to get that fast. I still don't know where to start but perhaps this will get my head out of the 'clouds of hope of resolution' and firmly on the road out of here. have {luckily} received benefit payment to cover my rent here for another month, so I will use that I reckon to organise myself.
She controls everything, almost and my mobile phone plan is one of them. I don't want my number anymore and i want to be in control of my only method of communication if she stops paying for stuff unexpectedly. So I've just ordered a new SIM card with a new number and a new plan with a different company. That's coming Saturday.
Originally Posted by wayfarer
She's going to blame you. She's going to say and do much worse things. Trust me. But none of it's about you.
I shall bow to your experience here, but it sure seems like I'm the target. Funny though how all this has come about as soon as my pensions were due to have options. She was waiting for my original dental payout (was going for over 6.5 years) which was headed to be around 44,000k, but after my expert witness took a change of heart it ended up 19.5k. My pensions all included have a value of around 100k.
I think I'm going to cut 'n' run here as she is setting me up for a fall. Making her outgoings seems like she hasn't got any money left at the end of the month, by making stuff up. She isn't using her car, but using her new partners car but she's paying the full amount of the lease ... on his car ... and then she's paying for a road worthy test ... on a leased car? I reckon she is referring to the test being for her car as the lease company will do theirs as part of the agreement. So if she has got her car to use, why is she paying a lease on a car that her partner uses and who was paying that lease before she turned up? Lie after lie. It doesn't make sense which is how you know it's a lie.
I think she'll come unstuck. I can't sleep....
Sorry, I'm still ranting. This would be so amazing to watch from the outside, but when you're in it.....
M(55), W(45) BD1: Apr-2011, BD2: 23-May-21, NC (15 June '21) Divorce Filed (16 July '21) --- When you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel, you need to trust it's there.
