Wayfarer Thank you again for your words. I am in an absolute mess at the moment. I have spent the night (2am here) replying back to my Lawyer. I have audio recordings of our telephone conversation when she said she will pay the rent for June, July and August - I cut that piece out and sent it to them.
I have also sent them information that destroys her outgoings list and income, as well as starts to expose her to preparing to work outside of her work hours, engaging on Zoom calls to bring in leads, etc. This is against her contract.
She also had a secret bank account and said that my dental claim money was in there. It wasn't. she told me it was in the savings pot of her current account and it was her suggestion to put it there. She also quote the wrong amounts - I have provided bank statement of the transactions where I transferred the money to her.
We had also agreed that this money was only for dental treatment and emergencies. She has listed that it was spent on general shopping, which is factually incorrect. She has made it so that there is nothing left on the balance of her list, but she has forgotten about the audio equipment that I purchased just prior to covid pandemic close-downs, that I invested in for my coaching seminar business I was due to set up in May 2020.
She has suggested that I should get work as a window cleaner or gardener!!! seriously? She knows I won't be able to do those things continually due to the movement and my vestibular migraine. Vertigo ad ladders don't really mix, and I can't have my head looking up either for long.
She seems to be seriously off her rocker - I would have never thought that I would be on the receiving end of this - I have done nothing but love and support her.
I trust your comments about it getting worse and her going for everything. I shall be speaking with my lawyer tomorrow about mitigating my risk. I think I'm just gonna cut-n-run on this one and leave her to it. This is seriously scary!
She has accepted that I can divorce for adultery, but with an "unnamed" person. I'm putting my foot down here. If I'm paying costs and I've had all my money stolen so far, then I want ALL parties names to be on public record. Otherwise I will petition for divorce and she can pay ALL costs.
I had a chat with the Rental agent lady today for an hour. She can't believe it. My stbxw emailed her that she wasn't going to pay the rent any longer. The agent emailed her back as said that she insisted on talking with her. So my stbxw called her in the evening and just said what she said in her email. The agent lady told her that no matter what she pays or doesn't pay, as she is on the tenancy still she is both jointly and severally liable. So basically she still has an obligation to pay the rent or part there-of.
I will put my trust in my lawyer, she seems quite aggressive which is why I hired her. I am dreading her coming round on the weekend (the stbxw, not the lawyer) to collect her belongings. Perhaps she won't come now. Arrgh!
How upsetting that somebody who I love(d) can act in this calculated and evil way. It IS really hard not to take all this personally, but I shall try not to. I need to remain on the high-ground, doing things right and equitable. I need to protect myself from her though. god knows what she's gonna do next.
M(55), W(45) BD1: Apr-2011, BD2: 23-May-21, NC (15 June '21) Divorce Filed (16 July '21) --- When you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel, you need to trust it's there.
