I'll start by saying that my husband and I have been together for 4 and a half years. Married for a year and a half now. My husband has cheated on me all of 3 times now.. ive been cheated on before alot.
Is this marriage worth saving? He's cheated on you 3x you know about in 4.5yrs. He even lies to the OW. Artemis, most people wouldn't consider someone so dishonest a good partner. You're 27 and don't have kids together.
Why is cheating acceptable to you? He had an EA before you got married. Repeatedly choosing cheaters isn't random chance. It points to something within you to fix. I've dated dozens of people, and no cheaters afaik.
Originally Posted by Artemis
I found out about a week ago he had sex with another woman Should I be having sex and sleeping with him? But I'm conflicted, sex gives intimacy and cuddling does to
My advice is "No". Sex while in limbo is usually okay if: (a) He's not sleeping with others, (b) You can enjoy it as a purely physical act. In your case neither is true. Consider the chance of an STI which would complicate your dating future or even life. Consider he gets to cake eat--guaranteed sex and affection from his Plan B, while he seeks out his Plan A. Consider how it reduces your value in his eyes to be willing to continue offering your committed affection while you know he's out bedding others. Consider how it prevents you from detaching from him which is what you'll want to do to either move on or have a real shot at reconciliation.
