1. I am still NOT divorced though we are on the final lap. We have agreed most things. I agreed to everything he asked for. This is not roll over and play dead, it's me knowing the fight is not worth the prize. He can have his slice of the pie, I will just bake another one.
2. I am still in the effing house. This is the one that gets me and was probably the driver for my wanting to get the D over and done with quickly. He has steadfastly said he will not sell the house until the D is finalised. Meanwhile, I am paying a fortune in mortgage each month for a 5 bedroom house that only houses me 50% of the time and he still treats as if it is his.
3. I started a new job in March. Huge pay cut but more career opportunities. In the past I always took jobs for how much it paid and how flexible they could be in terms of my being a working mum. I was a mum first and foremost. Now, with my kids getting bigger, and the pressure off to finance the middle class aspirational lifestyle that my ex was so desperate for, I can take a job that I want, not a job that suits.
4. I am still single. I've had the odd romance, but nothing worth writing about.
5. My eldest (now nearly 15) and I still have a difficult relationship. Back in my early newbie days, I used the rock analogy - weather the storms, be patient etc. Don't push, don't pull - just be there. The lessons I learned in those early days didn't help me to R, but they were well learned, and I now try and be the rock for her. Some days are harder than others.
6. I have managed to travel a little this year - I have a wonderers soul and I didn't even know it.
That's it - not a deep introspective post, but it gives you some idea of where I'm at.
I came here three years ago desperate for answers, quick solutions to a problem I thought could be fixed, if only someone taught me how. The truth is there are no quick fixes. But that doesn't mean the lessons we learn here don't work - they just don't always work the way you wanted them too.
