Exit affairs - yeah, that's how we met and that's what she did before. Red flag - didn't see it as I wasn't aware of such things as red flags before.
I could understand deciding that's a red flag for you in future relationships.
Originally Posted by smile
I still don't know what to say to her when I answer the door to her when she comes for her things next weekend though and that's a major cause of stress for me at the moment for some silly reason.
For you, I just looked up my once live-in XGF's final visit to my home.
Originally Posted by "CWarrior, 6 months ago"
She said "It's a beautiful day". I asked what she was taking--she said her pots. I went inside and brought out 2 possessions she'd left behind. I pointed out one (of two) potted plants (value: $75-$150) she was taking she'd abandoned during the first breakup. She said I could have it. I said I would like it, unless it's important to her. She said her D gave it to her as a Mother's Day gift. I said take it. The alternative was petty.
I went inside. I didn't want my final interaction to be petty, so I returned and thanked her for transplanting my plants from the pots, setting up the sprinkler for them, and sweeping debris. I went back inside.
Ten minutes later my doorbell rang. I opened it. She now looked emotional. She asked for a hug. I said, "Of course." She teared up. I gave her a 45-sec hug. Crying, she said she still liked me, loved me, and respected me. I said "Ditto." She said, "I'll cancel going on that expedition we both signed up for in May, that was more your thing, unless you want me there?" I smiled warmly but had no answer. I said, "Take care".
As she walked away, I closed and locked the door on a chapter of my life.
Do you need to say anything? Let your STBXW initiate any conversation. Personally, I took the high road, and expressed gratitude when she was being kind. No guilt. No regrets. I might have felt those if I'd either been mean to her or peacocked in an attempt to sway her back. I did eventually get a chance to R.
