It's awful and because they are women, it's acceptable?
Originally Posted by smile
I certainly don't hate women neither am I taking a stance against them, of course I'm not, I would never do that. I am just trying the best I can to simply understand
Got it. I think the ethical considerations are similar whether it's a man or woman.
Originally Posted by smile
brought back a few memories of the 90's,
Funny! Using that phrase brought back memories of the 90s for me, too!
Originally Posted by smile
It's fine that she wants to be happy, but I don't understand why she may see me as working against that, I never have from my perspective and I still can't see that it's not just about sex and money.
Ready2Change pointed out lack of sex often indicates other issues. When I stopped having sex with my partner in an LTR, it was because my attraction and respect for them were low. When my XW stopped having sex with me, it was because she was going through depression. You know when your STBXW is done with a relationship, she prefers exit affairs because that's how you met her in the first place.
Originally Posted by smile
If she wasn't trying to destroy me.. I think I am entering the anger phase.....
Anger is healthy. She ended the marriage, cheated, and took money from your joint funds. You HAVE been wronged. Your trust HAS been violated. This is emotional damage that will take time to heal.
Originally Posted by smile
she is trying to find happiness externally, through somebody or something else, but we all know that happiness is found within.
The internal and the external interplay. Statistically, you're more likely to be happy if you make $75,000 than $25,000, but no happier with $750,000 than with $75,000 in the long run. There are amazing people like Victor Frankl who can find happiness even in a Nazi concentration camp. I believe I'll be more successful pursuing happiness solo than if I had stayed with or resumed a relationship with my XW.
