WAW Walks Away a Second Time

[smilie]

It's awful and because they are women, it's acceptable?

Careful. Being that guy who hates women or that lady who hates men won't serve you. Men (like myself) and women (like wayfarer) are equally free to leave relationships that don't serve us anymore.

I certainly don't hate women neither am I taking a stance against them, of course I'm not, I would never do that. I am just trying the best I can to simply understand

Their right to extend their fist ends where your nose begins.

Actually, this is a similar saying I used to use when I was a martial arts instructor - brought back a few memories of the 90's,

They're not trying to destroy your life--any more than I'm trying to destroy someone else's life when I defeat a competitor or fire an employee. It's sometimes a side effect. She wants to be happy. She thinks you work against that. Maybe they are right (as wayfarer and I were). Maybe they are wrong. Time will tell, no?

It's fine that she wants to be happy, but I don't understand why she may see me as working against that, I never have from my perspective and I still can't see that it's not just about sex and money...or just sex. It just seems so shallow, especially if it is a quick affair as I suspect. Of course in a new relationship you're having multiple buttons pressed making you feel besotted, that subsides in a longer term relationship. If she wanted to feel that way why did she not make more of an effort? Yes, I have a part to play also, but it seems like she is trying to find happiness externally, through somebody or something else, but we all know that happiness is found within. So she's basically chasing ghosts just to feel lust(?) in the moment?

If she wasn't trying to destroy me then she wouldn't have emptied the bank account and kicked me full-force in the guts and ripped my heart out. She knew exactly what she was doing, again in my book, and played a really good game behind my back. I think I am entering the anger phase.....