WAW Walks Away a Second Time

[smilie]

This is where you have your "non-negotiables" completely defined. If they come begging you to take them back, at that point you ask them what they are willing to do. Most likely they will not meet your requirements, then you let them know "that is not good enough". Right now, you have much work to do on yourself and do not need to use up any energy in the hypothetical world.

Thanks for your comments.

In regard to the "non-negotiables" are these communicated to the WAS or just for me? I doubt if she will coming begging to take her back this time, it feels so final somehow. But then it did last time also. Perhaps it's in my head that I'm done with this. I don't know. My emotions are all over the place and keep taking me by surprise.

Yes I do need to work on myself and there is much work to do indeed. Currently one minute I think I'm ok and the next I am completely distraught. I am worrying a LOT about what to say next week when she comes to collect her things, as previously arranged. She can only take personal belongings, such as clothes, etc.

I don't know what to say to her when I answer the door when she arrives - I don't know how to be. I know I need to be polite and firm, but I don't think holding a conversation will help either. This will be the first time we have seen or communicated in 3 weeks. She will be with her sister and I will have a friend here, but I really can't decide how to act towards her. I'm thinking maybe I ask how long she will be and to let me know when she is done and keep it to just that. I'm not even sure if I need to ask how long she will be, but just to let me know when she is done.

This is one of the things that is really stressing me out and even though it's still a week away. I don't know what to do about the house and whether I should make things "super tidy" or just leave it as I usually would - how I usually live. It needs a good tidy and clean anyway, which I plan to do today anyhow.