Hopefully not. Some of us have worn the WAS hat. If I’d left my XW after 10yrs a year earlier, I might’ve still cared, but instead I used that last bit of care to give her another year to change. By the time I left I’d given her all I could and it was time to focus on me and my kids. I was totally done 2 weeks before BD.
Same when I left my exH I was done, done. Had I gone 4 or 5 years sooner maybe I would've cared or worried but by that point not only had I exhausted all avenues of saving that MR, I had exhausted any ability to consider his feelings in the matter any more.
This is interesting to me as you were both done and never looked backed. This site leads you to believe that the WW is in a temporary fog and will later regret their decision. This fog talk IMO gets people here stuck.
The assumption that WAS will regret their decisions is based on the assumption that the LBS was the prize in the relationship. When the WAS is in crisis and leaves a good, even if not perfect, relationship the chances that they will regret their decision later is high. There are other cases though where the LBS was not a good spouse or the relationship was just incompatible for whatever reason. In these situations the chances of R are low
