Hopefully not. Some of us have worn the WAS hat. If I’d left my XW after 10yrs a year earlier, I might’ve still cared, but instead I used that last bit of care to give her another year to change. By the time I left I’d given her all I could and it was time to focus on me and my kids. I was totally done 2 weeks before BD.
Same when I left my exH I was done, done. Had I gone 4 or 5 years sooner maybe I would've cared or worried but by that point not only had I exhausted all avenues of saving that MR, I had exhausted any ability to consider his feelings in the matter any more.
