WAW Walks Away a Second Time

[smilie]

WS/WAS aren't exactly known for for their reliability or follow through. She's not playing mind games. She's just genuinely not considering how it would affect you. Nor does she care. You are out of sight out of mind. And that hurts like h3ll. But that's what it is.

I can't get my head around that. How can you live with somebody and have them part of your life for 19+ years and then not think about them at all, or care about what you are doing? That is cold and callous to me. I don't suppose I will ever know.

I don't think you're stupid. Nor did I call you stupid. I know you've been doing some self assessment here. But that's not the point. It isn't 100% your fault and it's not 100% hers either. That's the point.,

Oh no! I wasn't saying you were! Lol! Crossed wires. I was just stating that I wasn't stupid - or didn't see myself as stupid. I certainly wasn't pointing to you saying I was. Sorry if there was a misunderstanding.

Also she didn't leave you now mainly because you have nothing to offer. The point both CW and I we're trying to make is that if that were actually the case and if she was truly a narcissist she would've left a long time ago.

Oh I see. That makes sense.

WAS/WS seem to have a common theme of picking up interests and dropping them quickly.

Situations like this seem to have the common theme of co-dependency in the relationship.

That's familiar then, as this is what she has done and the co-dependency has developed certainly and more over time from my perspective as I've dropped more things and interests etc.

And last little tid-bit, and I don't know why I need to say this, but since I must I must, you are angry. You're clearly anger. It's ok to be angry it's part of the process. Be angry. Sit in it for a while. And then worry about you.

But I don't feel angry - not in the slightest. Perhaps it's bubbling up inside somewhere and will show itself when the time comes. Actually, I think that's what all this shaking is about maybe, anger held inside. It's stopped for the moment, first time today I'm not trembling.

Thank you for your insights. It's certainly challenging my thinking that's for sure. I'll go back to my analogy I used earlier about sitting at the Mad Hatter's tea party, it'll makes more sense that way!