Assuming you want to bust this divorce, I think you need to weaponize his fear of losing you. Be less present at home, be more active with friends, go visit restaurants and social scenes. Dress well, stay well groomed.
I did this in my situation, you choose if and how to do it based off of your situation.
I even stayed out all night when my W was home (which wasn't often) just to give her a taste of her own medicine. Now maybe that's not DB 101, but DB is doing what works too.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
