Actually reading this email makes you sound like a complete passive aggressive A-hole. If this is how you normally communicated with her I think you may have your smoking gun.
I know you are hurting but this email makes you look really bad. All about how you feel and anything she feels is stupid.
You have some work to do Lee.
When your wife, whom you have barely even ever raised your voice to, comes in one night, brings up some strange man from 12 years ago, physically savages you, and says she will continue to think of him and wonder about him but she won't even think of you at all once the divorce is over -- well, [censored] like that tends to make someone emotional.
Anyhow, there is a reason why I am getting this out and sharing it all here--these fake emails--rather than sending them to my (freshly, as of this morning) ex-wife.
Lee again I know you are hurting and its ok to be emotional. When your alone find a safe place to cry, beat your pillow, scream or whatever it takes to process it.
You can do either one or two things from this experience. Learn from your mistakes and move on or do nothing and become angry and bitter. I can promise you the first option will breed better results in the future.
You will see in time that this was not all on her nor was it all on you. It was on the both of you. It looks like she is going down a really troublesome path. You do not have to do the same thing. You can grow from this if you choose.
