Okay I won't send that one. But maybe I'll send this one!
"Telling me and texting me that you need major mental health help while getting angry at me for expressing concern for your mental health state to our mutual friends sounds stupid to me
Telling the person you married that you were never really that attracted to him after 7 years together, 30% of your entire adult life, sounds stupid to me
Telling your friends I can’t [censored] or whatever, sounds stupid to me (suddenly now you are some sexual dynamo?)
Bringing up some strange looking dude from over a decade ago by name and comparing me unfavorably to him sounds stupid to me. (And crazy)
Looking the person you chose to marry in the eye and telling him that you will never think of him when he is gone but that you will day dream about some weird looking, bald, short term dating partner who rejected you over a decade ago is a retarded, baffling, utterly satanic thing to say to a spouse—and it sounds stupid to me.
Telling me, after all these years of writing "best [censored] time ever" on wine corks that you saved that you got [censored] better years ago sounds stupid to me
Telling me that every outburst of ass showing, crazed bitchiness from you over the years was my fault for making you miserable sounds stupid to me
Telling me that staying in this relationship any longer would make you suicidal, instead of looking inward, working on yourself before leaping to divorce, and acknowledging the effect of the pandemic sounds stupid to me.
Blaming your alcohol issues & every over-drinking incident on me & your dissatisfaction w our relationship when you’ve clearly & admittedly been over drinking for years & years prior to us ever dating, sounds stupid to me
all this stuff sounds stupid, shallow and crazy to me. That's how I FEEL. I can't guarantee that it is all accurate. It's just how I feeeeel.
It feels like all of this is coming from another human being.
I guess it is possible that I misread what type of person you were from the beginning, and projected onto you what I wanted you to be & you just faked for years. I can't rule crazy [censored] out. But the breadth of the evidence does indicate, to me, a mood disorder fueled midlife crisis. You are not the person that I knew
If that’s the case, then please get help.
If this is just the real, authentic you, then God help you and anyone who gets close to you.
The two hardest things for me are resentment and wholesale regret. Resentment at what you’ve done. Regret I ever met you. Hard to type. Hard to think. It's what I feel.
I don’t know that any of this is actually forgivable. It feels like some elaborate, vicious, long term prank.
Can’t help my feelings. They are my feelings.
Good luck with the weed and the wine and dating balding 5'11 hikers (your actual, physical type) this time around. Hope it works out."
Actually reading this email makes you sound like a complete passive aggressive A-hole. If this is how you normally communicated with her I think you may have your smoking gun.
I know you are hurting but this email makes you look really bad. All about how you feel and anything she feels is stupid.
