This is hard. Very hard. I feel that I have had my insides ripped out today and I feel that I'm on a downward spiral into oblivion - somebody please tell me that this gets better at some stage.
It absolutely get better with time. Bent used a great analogy.
Originally Posted by smilie
Why do I miss her so much, even though she has had an affair?
Because your thinking and acting on emotion and not logic and reason. Just like your W is right now.
Originally Posted by smilie
Part of me thinks that I need to "show" her that I've been getting ready to get on with my life when she comes to collect her things in 10 days time, by sorting things out and boxing some things up, even though I have nowhere to move to.
This is what is known as the "illusion of actions". You feel you need to do something to win her back. Unfortunately nothing you do will have an effect on her right now.
Originally Posted by smilie
I am dreading it. Absolutely everything about this situation is not fine and it makes me see how vulnerable I have made myself over the years and how pathetic I now am, as a person ... as a man.
You are not pathetic. You are a man who loves his w. You can see this as a gift so you can now work on yourself so if this happens again you will be ok right away.
Originally Posted by smilie
I wasn't anything like this before she left and was a rally confident person, but now I am just a quivering pathetic mess.
Be kind to yourself smilie.
Originally Posted by smilie
I just wish this was the end, but apparently it's not.
It's going to take a really long time for your emotions to level out. One hour at a time.
Originally Posted by smilie
Does this actually get better? Because after 5 weeks it feels like it's getting a lot worse....
