While we were together, my wife was a regular user of the Telegram app. Since she has gone it would appear that she is either no longer using the app on her laptop, or designated another number to the app. However, I rebuilt a mobile phone for her last year to use as a "work phone" while she was working from home during lockdown, so that clients could phone her. This phone is an android mobile phone, but I rebuilt it without Google software to eliminate tracking. I also put telegram on this phone so that she could use that on that number, rather than install telegram on her "live" everyday phone.
Anyway, I have noticed that although her telegram username is not used while she isn't at work, she still looks at Telegram on this phone on brief occasion when she is at work. So rather than take the phone home, she keeps it at work (probably so the OM doesn't know she has a second mobile).
Anyway, because of the brief time that she seems to "check" telegram, she isn't on it long enough to read anything. Therefore I was wondering whether she is checking to see if I have been active. I only use the app to check a couple of group updates during the day.
The strange thing is, this morning I noticed that she was "online" when I was checking my groups and within a very short while of me being "online", she went offline. That was suspicious, I thought. She has also "checked" again mid afternoon and again just now, and I am starting to wonder whether she is just checking this to keep an eye on what I may being doing and whether I'm active ... Either that or I am paranoid. It does seem rather strange though, that she has seemed to stop all of her usual telegram activity on various groups she used to keep up with and now nothing, apart from when she is at work with her "secret" phone. The checking seems to be getting more regular. First she just used to be online at the start of the day, then the start and the end and today she has been online at various intervals. So this is increasing in frequency as the days go by.
Has anybody experienced this type of thing or is it just me thinking that she's "keeping an eye" as it were? It's almost enough to make me paranoid.
M(55), W(45) BD1: Apr-2011, BD2: 23-May-21, NC (15 June '21) Divorce Filed (16 July '21) --- When you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel, you need to trust it's there.
