WAW Walks Away a Second Time

[OnlyBent]

If there was any type of chance we could somehow start to mend this situation, I would be up for the discussion.

Most make the mistake that they believe talking is the solution. Validating her feelings, setting boundaries, completely changing the way you behave as well as the way you interact with her are significantly more important.

Avoid R talk at all costs. If she brings it up, then you validate her feelings. Hone and nail down those skills before you need them. You can practice them with everyone.

With her not being here and most likely moved in with OM, I doubt there will be any chance for any interactions. It has been 2 weeks fully NC now, 5 weeks since she told me she wasn't coming home to the day, and she hasn't even yet responded to my lawyers letter. For some reason she seems to be taking her time, even though she was the one wanting things to happen quickly - quick depart, then mention she wants a divorce inside of 2 weeks, then nothing.

My social circle is virtually non-existent to practice these skills. However, whenever I get the chance I will, just in case. I shall see if I can find some examples....

Focus on you Smilie and make the changes for you. Work under the assumption that she isn't coming back and that you will be ok no matter what happens. I was told this over and over and it took me a while to believe it. I know how desperate the situation can seem at the time, but trust me it does get better.