WAW Walks Away a Second Time

[OnlyBent]

People on this group mentioned IC and I was just wondering what kind people felt most effective? I really want to get something started, as I have been waiting in the health service here (UK) but there is an 8 week wait and 5 weeks in I still haven't heard about an appointment, despite chasing them. I am a little concerned that general/traditional counseling may not be exactly tailored to this situation and wondered what style of IC has worked for them.

I assume by traditional you mean CBT. In terms of finding the most effective, I think this comes down to finding the right therapist. My first one after my sitch didn't really work for me, she just listened and I left the session feeling like I had just talked about my STBXW for 50 mins whilst she asked a few questions here and there. The next lady that I saw was completely different. She called me out on my BS and helped my identify my part in the end of the M, and most importantly she gave me questions to answer and tasks to complete to help change those behaviours. She is straight up, doesn't mess about so I know when she says something she isn't just saying it to make me feel better.

In terms of other therapy, I have heard that EMDR is very good for trauma. I looked into on the suggestion of CW and May on this board but all the practitioners in my city are all full with no room for new clients at ethe moment. Perhaps that says something about its effectiveness.