WAW Walks Away a Second Time

[smilie]

The good news is you can change. You can grow. You can clean up your 50%. You can behave different. You can interact with others different. You can make different choices. You learn new ways to communicate. You learn as much as you can about attraction and seduction. Drop unattractive traits and add attractive traits to your behaviors.

And I will be looking forward to that. I've always been the one to communicate with everyone anyway. I lived on my own for a while and learned the skills that I needed to be alone, stay alone. It certainly does make you a more rounded person. All I need to do now then, is learn the other stuff I didn't learn the first time! :-)

You have been given a gift, even if you can't see it, we can. Take this time to become happy alone. That doesn't mean you don't interact with others. Just don't make your happiness dependent on having a woman in your life.

I was there before we met. I lived on my own for a fair while - a couple of years almost - she never has. Part of me is dreading it especially in the current climate and the state of the world, but the bigger part of me is looking forward to see what I can create in the world and in myself. And you're right, I can't see it at the moment! :-)

She has just as many issues as you, but she most likely will not grow. At some point, she may see all your changes and like what she sees. She will most likely miss her friendship with you. At that point, you will be completely detached and hopefully have a whole new set of skills to deal with her.

She may see my changes, she may not. I don't plan to be around here too much longer as I want to see if I can break away from the area completely, so we won't be anywhere near each other. I do plan to completely detach as I don't think that I want to go through this again, not at my age. I think that the healing from the damage caused by her affair may take too long, if I were prepared to forgive and try again, but I think that there is much healing to do and feel that we must do that apart. It's making tears run down my face just typing this as I do love her dearly and I always have ... always will and the sad thing is, she knows it. She is the only person that I would put my life on the line for in the blink of an eye, without question. She knows that too. But I'm not sure that I can do this again, not now, not in another few years when she decides to repeat the pattern once again, I just don't know if I could.

Set her free. Do not pursue her. Give her what she has asked for. This is unconditional love.

I have. I'm not. I am. It is.

Lovely words, thank you.