Yup - she having an affair. With a guy who’s going to drain her bank account. Crazy. But they do crazy things.
My ex counseled his best friend about stopping his affair and saving his marriage (which friend did) about a year before he cheated on me.
I’m glad your finances are sorted. Separate anything that hasn’t already been separated. Do NOT trust her with anything!
Then let go. Odds are good this won’t work out well for her, but ask yourself this: WHY would you ever want her back? She’s a selfish alcoholic. You didn’t marry her because you felt you couldn’t live without her. I’d be grateful there are no children involved, sign the divorce papers and go no contact. Start planning an exciting new life for yourself. (I bought a drum kit when my ex left, learned to play drums, joined an adult rock band class, then went on to play in a pop punk amateur cover band for five years, and to tour with a professional singer songwriter friend playing percussion and vibraphone. Living well is the best revenge!
