Wayfarer this is some good stuff and it sounds like you are heading in the right direction. Due to your ages if your H is interested in self help I recommend the book “ The Happiness U-curve”. It’s a fascinating book based on tons of data how humans happiness is shaped in a u curve. Unfortunately it’s about to bottom out for you lol. I think it’s good to know that it’s just how life goes and not necessarily the circumstances. Interestingly enough studies show it’s the same in apes.
Also, I was wondering if you can take a look at Scotty Bs thread. I’m friends with someone on here and we disagree the main cause of the D. I find your takes honest and interesting. Thanks.