Also, we haven't had sex in months. It is weird typing that but I think I need feedback on this. I've been kinda apathetic towards sex in this R because "it's boring". And by boring I mean that we don't do anything too crazy and I have never been with only one partner this long. Excuses... I know. So if I don't write it out it is easier to ignore. This needs work but the baby is almost here too.
Lots of writings and approaches to this problem. I am of the "never stop dating your wife" school of thought. Weekly date nights are mandatory. Buying her flowers for no reason just like you did when you were dating. Etc. Sometimes we men have a tendency to get lazy and stop trying (and I don't mean trying for sex, I mean trying to woo our wives). I think this is why our lack of romantic ability is often a topic of "girl" talk. When the ladies get together. I would imagine (I have no scientific proof of this) that the women who have no complaints about their husbands for a lack of romance are the women in marriages where sex still occurs relatively frequently. And that the women that complain about how unromantic their husbands are tend to be in the SSMs. Just a thought. It is easy to get caught up in day-to-day life and forget to fan the flames of romance.
The problem with being in a SSM at your ages is that eventually one of you will want it. And if the other one has gone into defensive mode about it every time it is brought up the likelihood that the one that wants it will just go seek it elsewhere becomes much higher. So I agree with wayfarer, if it starts weighing on you, whether you really want it or not, talking about it openly, honestly, with out blame or judgement is going to be better than trying to bury it.
Last edited by SteveLW; 06/25/2105:42 PM.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
