With a baby coming the family thing is only going to get worse before it gets better. But in the early months it's a blessing. Neither of you will sleep, eat or function independently without the permission of your bouncing baby boss. With extra hands all of that gets a little easier. And it can be smothering but you often have to remind yourself that it's a balance. It doesn't feel particularly smothering when you get to take a nap and wake up when you please vs when you are told you're getting up NOW by a squalling, demanding roommate. As the baby gets older or as you guys add more to the team W should (but we'll see) have a stronger desire to be the matriarch of her own brood and not want to constantly be around everybody else all the time. And over stepping grandparents usually get shut down eventually.
You guys both should probably read Babyproofing your Marriage and maybe give a glance to The Book You Wish Your Parents Read.
As for the seggsy time thing. I and my close friends were of the hormonal flavor that drove our drives sky high. So I don't really have personal anecdotes on that. But I do have a friend who I recently had to give some suggestions to about that kind of stuff as her H is rather vanilla and has a low drive. Communication is the main thing. But there has to be some acceptance on both sides. She will have to at some point be willing to discuss somethings you'd like to try and be wiling to try at least a couple. And you will have to accept that it may take years if ever that she'll want to bring something in that's fresh and new to the bedroom. And that her drive will likely never match yours. But all of that is kinda on the back burner given how soon the baby is coming. When the time comes I can probably come up with some articles you might want to look over and some things you might want to try but now isn't that time. And it probably won't be until at least 3 months after baby arrives. And trust me even you won't be thinking about seggsy time much, as the new addition will suck the energy out of the both of you for a little while while your new buddy adjusts to life on the outside.
I am curious though, have you guys talked at all about why your currently not having sex?
Yes move to piecing!! I'm heading over. I wanna update here just to bump my thread every once in a while but I'd really like to get things moving over on piecing.
