I know. Since I'm already 27 months past BD I've learned to detach and heal the past 2 years.
Originally Posted by wayfarer
I know reading through a lot of the archived stuff there were MLC recons. But it's pretty few and far between. MLCers put the people nearest and dearest to them through some really awful stuff for years. It's a big ask on their part for an LBS to 1) continue to stand and 2) forgive and repair the marriage after all of that. What we we're put through with waywards is so short term in comparison to what a lot of MLC LBS have to deal with. It's a lot easier to forgive 4 months, 6 months, 18 months of chaos than it is to forgive years upon years of that. And as JJ stated on the other thread this is part choice and part chance. We recon because we wanted the recon and so did our spouses. There was always a potential that one of us wouldn't want that. And like ovr said above there is no predicting or controlling the outcome in these things. Sorry for the book. I know you asked a simple question looking for a simple answer, but I don't know that any of this stuff has simple answers.
Please don't be sorry. On the contrary, I was actually looking for an explanation about the difference between a WAS and an MLC'er and you have provided this perfectly.
I know there used to be a thread which explained the difference but it doesn't seem to work anymore.
I always knew, when I first lurked on this forum months before posting myself that my H was not a WAS but a real MLC'er. Unfortunately they indeed hurt everybody close to them and/or leave everybody behind, which I assume is not the case with a WAS.
