I only went out because I refused to be home and if he knew it was my birthday and I was home, I did not want to give him any satisfaction.
So MIL is coming to see D before she leaves. She asked if she could, as she has in the past, stay with us. I told her yes, and then I had to tell her what all has been going on. She was upset and felt responsible. I told her absolutely not that this is his journey. We discussed his past to try and understand what could have triggered this. All she could surmise is that right before H and I met, she had left his dad (apparently verbally abusive) and lived on her own for a year. She moved back into the home, knew it was not going to work, but her MIL died suddenly then her father became ill and passed. So within a year three traumatic things and I walked right into the middle of it with no knowledge. We got married and he never dealt with all of it.
So that gave me some insight, but it doesn’t change anything within him. I just understand and can empathize.
She is not telling him she’s coming, so this will be interesting. (He rarely speaks with her) so I wonder how he will react or if he says something.
So that is my update. She did mention if D ends up staying overseas she and I can go visit her. I also told her once D leaves I will pack up the pooches and head up north to stay a while with her. I am glad she’s in my life.
