Bridgette - thank you for your response to my post. I'm going to print the post out and re-read it every day - you've given me some great advice. Some of it I know already, but just can't seem to do, and some is making me think harder.
I'm wondering if my expectations are too high. I seem to keep going around and around the same thing - is it me or is it him? Should he do this because we're married, should I not expect this because we're married? Do you understand what I mean? For instance, H loves bike riding - he loves to go solo. I like bike riding too - and would occassionaly like to go with him. When I ask him, he usually groans, but will then relent. This upsets me greatly, because I am so sensitive to rejection - I take it so personally, and it usually ends up on a bad note. Obviously he doesn't want to go with me. I guess I'm asking should I just accept this as part of my H's personality - or should I expect that he should want to be with me? I obviously tend to think about things like this too much. Any thoughts? Advice? I find I constantly go back and forth over things, wondering if his actions secretly mean he's thinking of leaving again, or is discontent. Discussing these things with H is painful, mostly for him.
