She told me one day her kids were over my ex’s home. He was drinking and got drunk and they were going to go out. His kids did not want to get in the car with him drunk so they called their mom. And she told him he better not dare drive anywhere. He said he wasn’t drunk and that his gf ( my ex) would verify that he was fine. She said he is ok to drive. So my ex is allowing this a$$h@le to drive my kids drunk. I am not having that!! I don’t know what to do. Any advice???
Your kids being driven around by someone whose BAC is above the legal limit would be serious.
You don’t KNOW that’s happening. It sounds like that PROBABLY happened on the day in question. A woman you just met who’s upset at him alleges that one of her kids claimed this happened. She apparently wasn’t worried enough to take action to stop it such as calling a sheriff because then this would be a simple matter.
I would ask her to call the sheriff if this happens again and alert you if he’s arrested. I would offer to share if you obtain proof of abuse that a court or CPS accepts. I would informally arm your son with info about drunk driving. If she alleges this happens frequently, e.g., Saturday evenings 8-10pm, and you find her very credible, you could hire a PI for those evenings which will either prove or disprove her claim. I would avoid further venting sessions because they don’t help you detach.
How did holding your ground on the pickup before Father’s Day go? Any documented wrongdoings?
