Well it has been a couple of weeks since my last post and H never acknowledged the birthday. She was thinking he is totally typical with his behavior, where as you know, it upset me. Regardless, she had a great weekend and last weekend went to spend with his mom to visit some wineries. (I love his mom)
I can’t even tell you when last I looked at him. Maybe Sunday? He is back to total hibernation and I try not to be around when he’s coming home, because I don’t want to deal with him. He’s not confrontational or anything like that, this is coming from within me. Maybe this is more detachment.
D26 leaves in a week for three months overseas. That can also be why I am detaching from him. I’m preparing myself that I will not have any person here in the home except a roommate. Truly, he comes in and walks into the bedroom. He does not eat here, and does his laundry when it piles up. When I am not home and D is home (she’s working from home) he still just walks in and hides. My therapist said he’s hiding from himself. Last night, for instance, he was in the bedroom by 6:45 until 12 hours later when he got up and took a shower and now left the house.
This has been 2 years of IHS. As I mentioned before therapy is a key to sanity. I can’t imagine what or why he is doing this, but that’s not my job.
